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L’histoire de Myriam ”Hey minou! Tu me ferais tu une pipe pour 3 piastres”

Dans l’entrée du métro Radisson, paisiblement en attendant l’autobus, un homme avec une allure étrange entre, sachant très bien qu’il avait consommé des substances illicites, me regarde en plein visage et me dit : ”Hey minou! Tu me ferais tu une pipe pour 3 piastres”!!

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Nana’s story: ‘I ran back to my friends, completely traumatised’

When I was 17, I was harrassed three times in a row (within the space of a month) and it has changed the way I perceive men forever. At age 17, I was still almost a kid- uninterested in sex or relationships but really into dance and generally living life. Unfortunately, my first experience with others “desire” and sexuality was with harassment. It was june, a sunny day and I was walking from concordia to the tim hortons right next door to get some ice cappuccino for my friends and I. As I was walking back with a tray of ice capps, I heard a sort of a whistle, similar to a sound people make when they are trying to get your attention. It was clearly geared towards me because the person whistling made sure I would look. Confused and wondering why the hell someone is whistling at me, I looked around and finally up to see a naked (and disgustingly hairy) man on his balcony jerking off while whislting to get my attention. His jerk-off intensified once he saw that I saw. Shocked beyond belief at my first exposure to the opposite sex, I ran back to my friends, completely traumatised. After a few weeks, I was again walking from atwater station to guy, having to meet a friend around there. When I was walking by a martial arts school on ste-catherine, a large muscular man grabbed my arm and tried pulling me towards him saying “hey cutie, come talk with me”. I could not believe what was happening and said “no!”. I felt extremely scared since this guy was three times bigger than me (and older). Mostly, I was shocked by the lack of help from bystanders- I was a 17 years old girl and no one was trying to help me. After pulling my arm hard, he said “shit- calm down, I just wanted to talk to you” and let go. My arm was hurting and I didn’t understand why he couldn’t just talk to me instead of grabbing me. Because this is ten years ago, I remember feeling ashamed, thinking maybe my shorts were too short, maybe it was my fault. These thoughts followed me for a long, long time. My last and most terrorizing ordeal (although I still get harassed regularly) was inside the metro. It was around 7pm in july, meaning there were plenty of people and it was very bright outside. I was sitting on the dirty chairs of guy concordia, waiting for the metro. Although it was fairly empty, there were still 3-4 people on the opposite side but none on my side. When a man (who looked completely normal, probably a student) came and sat right next to me. There were about 7 free chairs around but he sat right next. I knew something was wrong but I didn’t want to cause a scene (nowadays I’m not afraid about this) so I nervously shifted a bit away from him. About a minute later, I felt something on my thighs and saw that the man had slid in hands in a upward motion on my thighs, going for the inside of my skirt. Terrified, I stood up and just in time the metro came. I ran into the train and he followed. I was half-crying, waiting anxiously for the next stop while thinking to myself “what do I do” a thousand times. During the ride, he kept whispering that he would rape me and say out loud that I provoked him. Completely traumatized and crying, I couldn’t help but feel like I insitigated it. While this man was verbally assaulting me and making me cry, the train that was fairly full did nothing. I Got off at Pell station and just went straight home. Although I cannot say that these experience has stopped, I have learnt over the years how to deal with them better. I also think that these predatory people know who they should pick on- young, often insecure teenagers. Nowadays I deal way more often with sexual advances based on my ethnicity so its a neverending battle. Fortunately I have a wonderful boyfriend who has enabled me to assess and appreciate myself and my self worth and I know that I will be there to help other victims of harassment if I see it.

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”Majorité Opprimée” – Qu’en pensez vous ? What do you think ?

Salut Hollabackers !
 
Vous avez peut-être déjà visionné ce court-métrage d’Éleonore Pourriat – Majorité Opprimée – qui circule depuis quelques jours, et on se demande ce que vous en pensez.
 
Voici nos observations: Le vidéo est un exemple percutant et efficace qui démontre bien plusieurs problématiques, notamment le harcèlement publique et les attentes sociales superficielles dont les femmes et les hommes sont victimes à tous les jours. Par contre, il y a un moment dans l’histoire qui fait référence à une femme portant le voile, et cette partie du vidéo est diminutive et méprisante. De plus, la représentation d’une personne sans-abris dans cette vidéo illustre une attitude entièrement apathique envers ce groupe et renforce plusieurs stéréotypes néfastes.
 
Qu’en dites vous ? Jetez-y un coup d’oeil et laissez nous savoir !
 
 
 
Bonne journée !
- L’équipe Hollaback Montréal
 
Hello Hollabackers!

So this video by Eléonore Pourriat has been popping up all over our social media circles, and we want to know what you think about it.

What we think: The video treats the issue of both street harassment and gendered expectations of behaviour in our society extremely well. However, it also includes a very short reference to the issue of women wearing the veil which we found dismissive, simplistic, unbalanced and unnecessary for the specific aim of the video. Furthermore, its only portrayal of the homeless plays directly into the stereotype of homeless people as good for nothing, rude harassers, rather real people in need of help.

What do you think?

Watch the video yourselves and let us know!

http://www.upworthy.com/a-french-film-showing-men-what-being-a-woman-feels-like-kinda

Love,

 
the Montreal Hollaback team.
 

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Feminism: It’s Good for Men, Too

 

This piece by Jess Mary Aloe for Feminspire is a really great beginner’s guide to feminism 101 type of article. It does a great job articulating why feminism is important and beneficial for EVERYBODY, contrary to what some may think. A good introduction to the complexities of the feminist movement!

”But first: what the hell is feminism, anyway?

It’s an easy umbrella term for any pro-women’s rights movement, but feminism is not a monolith and never has been. It takes different forms in different countries, being closely intertwined with local culture. Feminism is currently widely accepted to have three “waves,” although there is a staggering diversity in ideology even among the waves. The first wave is generally defined as being focused on the legal discrimination against women–for example, the suffragettes were first-wave feminists. The second wave arose during the 1960s, and broadened the debate to questions of inequality in sexuality, workplaces and the family. The third wave came in response to the second wave, and is widely believed to have risen in response to the “Feminist Sex Wars,” a series of debates in the late 1970s and early 1980s between feminists about pornography, sex work, the role of trans women and kink, among other issues. The third wave also shifted the discussion to how the feminist movement excluded women of color, and began considering the idea of intersectionality.”

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Feminism: It’s Good for Men, Too

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When Was The First Time You Were Harassed? By Debjani Roy

This fantastic piece by Djebani Roy (of iHollaback) highlights how early on street harassment is often first experienced and how much of an impact it can have on the lives of those affected. The text is filled with useful links and also introduces HOLLA 101: An Educator’s Guide to Street Harassment, which launches this week. Have a look:

”Whether you’re talking about the comments like “hey baby” or “can I get a piece of that?”; the leering and lip smacking; the overtly physical acts of touching and groping; the non-physical but threatening acts like public masturbation, being the target of street harassment can start early. Very early.”

 
 

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2014 – Revival at iHollaback Montréal

 

Salut tout l’monde ! (English version below)

Nous sommes très heureux d’annoncer la renaissance de notre branche locale de iHollaback, en commençant dès aujourd’hui ! Nous souhaitons nous excuser du manque de contenu dans les derniers mois – voyez-vous, notre organisation est gérée par des bénévoles, et comme vous le savez sans doute, il peut être assez difficile de balancer travail, école et autres engagements. Nous souhaitons remercier Kira et Mélodie du fond du cœur d’avoir fondé ce groupe en 2011, et pour tout ce qu’elles ont accompli depuis avec leurs coéquipières (ainsi que pour leur accueil chaleureux).

Le printemps approche à grand pas, et du coup nous préparons pour une hausse inévitable de harcèlement publique. La soleil printanier nous réchauffe et nous retirons (avec joie) épaisseur après épaisseur, pour finalement sentir la douce chaleur sur notre peau dénudé; nous ressortons nos bicycles du cabanon pour se remettre à circuler dans les rues… Ceci semble, à chaque année,  coïncider avec la fin de l’hibernation des harceleurs, ou du moins c’est l’impression que ça donne! Disons que l’euphorie du printemps et de l’été peut être vite ruinée par des commentaires ou des gestes non-sollicités. Par conséquent, en plus du renouvellement progressif et global d’iHollaback Montréal, nous préparons toutes sortes de collaborations et de projets pour vous ce printemps. Présentement nous réorganisons notre réseau et nos plateformes. De plus, nous planifions des campagnes de sensibilisations pour dénoncer le harcèlement dans les transports en commun et dans les bars / clubs.

Pour les petits nouveaux – bienvenu ! Nous adorons avoir des nouvelles de vous, donc n’hésitez surtout pas : contactez nous pour toute question ou préoccupation, pour vous impliquez ou juste pour dire coucou !

 

Rencontrez notre équipe -> Notre Équipe / Our Team

Garder l’œil sur nos projets à venir -> iHollaback Montréal

Apprenez-en plus sur le mouvement international iHollaback et partagez votre propre histoire -> Partage ton histoire / Share your story

 

 

Hey there!

We at iHollaback Montréal are happy to announce the revamping and revival of our local branch, starting right now! We apologize for the lack of content in the last few months – you see, this organization is run on a volunteer basis, and as you know, consolidating work, studies and other commitments can be quite challenging! We wish to thank Kira and Mélodie for everything they’ve accomplished since founding the Montréal team with a few other cool gals back in 2011 (and for all the wise tips and warm welcome). 

 As spring approaches we brace ourselves in the face of a sure increase in public harassment. The warmth of spring has us happily shedding layers of clothes to feel the sun’s glorious rays on our skin again; has us fixing up our bikes to get back on the streets – unfortunately this coincides with harassers creeping out of hibernation, or so it seems to many of us. So in addition to an overall renaissance of iHollaback Montréal, we are planning a bunch of really great projects and collaborations for you this spring. Right now we are getting organized and reaching out to groups and individuals to renew our local network. We are also drafting awareness-raising campaigns to denounce harassment within public transportation spaces and at clubs and bars in the city.

For all the new people / followers / hollabackers – welcome! We love hearing from you guys, so don’t be shy: reach out to us if you have any questions or concerns, if you want to get involved or if you simply want to say hi!

 

Learn about our new kickass team here -> Notre Équipe / Our Team

Keep an eye on our upcoming projects here -> iHollaback Montréal

You can find out about the iHollaback movement and share your harassment story here -> Partage ton histoire / Share your story

 

 

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Alice’s Story: “I’m just asking some questions. Bitch.”

I was walking up the hill near the Parc Mont-Royal and two men started walking towards me demanding to know if I had a boyfriend, asking for my number, etc. They were angry when I did not respond and ignored them, saying “I’m not harassing you or anything I’m just asking some questions. Bitch.”

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Catherine’s Story: “He put on a little act like he was hypnotized by my butt”

 

Last summer I went for brunch with my BFF on a sunny Sunday afternoon. We went to a place we both like up the street, just a few blocks from the apartment building we both live in. After thoroughly stuffing our faces we stepped outside and started our way back. I noticed that a few construction guys were taking a break, sitting on a step by the sidewalk. We had no choice but to walk by them, and before even reaching their spot I could see them leering at us. Once we walked past them, one of the older looking guys stood up and started following us. He put on a little act like he was hypnotized by my butt and couldn’t help following ‘’it’’. He followed us for like a 100 feet, all the while talking at / to / about my butt. I was getting more enraged with each step until I finally turned around and shakily screamed for him to back off and leave us alone. He lifted his hands up and said ‘’hey, look at what you’re wearing – you’re asking for it beautiful’’, insinuating that my short-shorts were a reasonable justification for his pathetic display. As we turned the corner and he finally left us alone I was literally shaking with rage! And then just as we were getting over it and getting back to our conversation, a truck honked at us, effectively startling us both. Left home that day excited to enjoy another fantastic summer day; came back an hour later angsty, upset and discouraged instead. I couldn’t stop seeing the whole walk home in my head and coming up with better, less emotional come-backs. I wish I had written down their construction company name to place a formal complaint or something, but those things never occur to me in the moment because I’m blinded by momentarily shock and outrage…

 

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